Only fat girls don’t eat cake at parties

I think every woman must reach a point in her life when she jumps off the diet bandwagon and goes her own way, never to return to the self-imposed tyranny of eating as someone else dictates.

I remember my moment.  Surprisingly it wasn’t an ‘arghh, I can’t take this anymore’ kind of thing; it was more a quiet realisation and a sense of new found freedom.  Rather like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

I was at a birthday party, where much fun was being had, everyone was chatting, meeting new people, catching up with old friends, enjoying a glass or two of wine and enjoying some delicious food prepared by the host.  The host is rather famous for her cake making skills, always delicious, always beautifully decorated and always appreciated by all.  So the much anticipated moment arrived and out came the cakes, everyone gathered around and helped themselves to a couple of small slices, all expecting to be back to try a slice of the others later in the evening.

Everyone except for one woman, who I had met for the first time at this party, had been chatting to and very much enjoying the company of.  This lady who was quite overweight, did not join in and told the little group we had formed that she was on a diet and so could not eat cake.

All fairly unspectacular so far, but it really got me thinking.  How can the world make sense when thin people eat cake and stay thin and overweight people don’t eat cake and stay overweight?  Watch out for this next time you eat out or are anywhere food is being served.  It is the thin people enjoying themselves and eating the delicious food, while the overweight people turn down the most delicious treats.

I’ve been the fat girl proudly declining the slice of cake at a party / creamy bowl of pasta at the special occasion restaurant meal / perfectly charred burger at the barbecue. The list goes on. It’s not fun, but it does bring a sense of achievement, and avoids the feeling that everyone’s watching thinking ‘look at the fat girl stuffing her face’.  I have also been (and remain) the girl who has found balance, reached a healthy weight and enjoys the occasional cupcake when the opportunity presents itself.  How did I get there?  By eating cake at parties!

What other people eat has always been a fascination of mine.  Observing the habits of the ‘naturally thin’ has taught me a lot.  By naturally thin I mean those who seemingly eat whatever they like and stay slim.  I have noticed that such women generally eat a good healthy diet; they do so in moderate portions; and include treats as when they want them, which isn’t at every meal or with every cup of tea.

As a result they generally feel good after they have eaten, by eating the foods their body desire, eating enough to satisfy but not stuff.  Which when you think about it must have been how we were meant to eat.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?


9 responses to this post.

  1. I have always been a believer in having dessert when you want it! If I find that I ate too much dinner and that I canto possibly fit in dessert, then I pass on it. When I know the dessert is specifically something that I love, I will make sure I don’t get too full on dinner so that I can comfortably eat the dessert. I think it’s important to listen to our bodies–they’ll tell us what’s right and what isn’t!


  2. Too right. Life’s too short not to eat dessert.


  3. Agreed. Everything in moderation. Save your treats for that really amazing dessert, not for something that’s just ok.


  4. Totally agree. Everything in moderation, even moderation


  5. I finally lost my pregnancy weight when I adopted healthier eating habits… but I also allowed myself treats from time to time (opting for healthier desserts when I could). All the times when I dieted and strictly limited myself, I would fall off the wagon and start to binge on the things I was craving. There IS something to be said for those blessed with good genes and a fast metabolism, though – I don’t think we should adopt the same habits if we don’t have the same body chemistry. If I had dessert every day – even if I have a few too many snacks or helpings – I gain weight.


  6. Posted by lvngwell on July 22, 2012 at 12:16 am

    Right now I have an 80/20 rule. 80 percent of the time I eat nothing but fresh fruits and veggies and beans and 20 percent of the time I can have whatever the hell I want. I have lost 35 pounds so far!


  7. I have been that fat girl at the party before. I still struggle with my weight. It is hard to have other people watching you eat cake, it just validates what everyone already knows.. that you are overweight.


  8. Posted by kristinabgiftsiz on September 3, 2012 at 12:35 pm

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